Fortunately for me, most of my relatives grew up in Cumberland or Salem Co, NJ, and a lot still live there. Everyday I check the obituaries on nj.com to look for any names I recognize. I check the Bridgeton News and the Salem Sunbeam. Then I go to read the BEN column (which is more of a community post of events and notes from townspeople).
I wrote in to the column 9 times last September regarding the situation at the Broad Street Church Cemetery. My favorite part was when they said I was exaggerating about the waist high weeds that I trimmed and then I sent them a picture. There will be another blog entry about uncovering my cousin Ella and her family's plot later.
I have found many interesting things in that column, frequently some of my cousins' names are mentioned. It's also how I found out that the county surrogate has extended hours (until 8 pm vs 4 pm) one Thursday a week.
When someone I know dies, or someone descended from my 4th great grandparents that I haven't contacted yet, I always send a sympathy card to his or her next of kin. This is why I buy sympathy cards in bulk from Target.